Online Dating pt. 2

Earlier this year, I blogged about my experiences with online dating. Though I swore off dating via that route again, I somehow found myself recently putting an ad on Black People Meet. Sigh…I know.

It has been up less than a week and I find myself already ready to take it off. Only reason it is still up is because I paid for a one month subscription. Sigh…I know, I know. LOL

I am beyond annoyed at the fact that folks do not read the profile. I went through the trouble of typing out my “what I am look for” for a reason. Yet, I get messages and “I am interested” from all these bammas (thanks Marcus for the word) who are obviously not what I am interested in. I have actually taken out the time to politely send messages back stating, “Thanks for your interest, but I am going to pass. I wish you the best.” As a woman, I hate to be ignored. So instead of ignoring ignorance, I reply. I figure, whether good or bad, say SOMEthing!

My main problem, I believe, is that I was spoiled by my first positive experience with online dating. My ex-manfriend and I met online. Both of us had a couple of pictures on our profile. (I think all of mine were from the shoulders up.) But from the first email until we met face to face a month later, he NEVER asked for anymore pics. He spent all his time getting to know me. My likes and dislikes. My goals and aspirations. My relationship history. Neither of us left any leaves unturned.

His emails were very lengthy. He was articulate. You could tell he took out the time when typing because there were rarely any typos. He asked what I would do in certain situations. Wanted to know my stand on marriage and parenthood. We got to know more about each other in those four weeks than most people learn after years of dating.

So, I think I am somewhat jaded in my current experiences. I am easily turned off by the most minor things just because I know that better exists. If I see more than three typos in less than 100 words, I’m like NEXT. If you ask me for more pictures before asking for my name…NEXT. If you send me a message only talking about my looks as your reason for wanting to get to know me…NEXT. If you ask me for my number or give me yours after one email…NEXT.

Am I wrong???

I really want to know. But then again, I guess I know what I will and won’t tolerate. I just wonder if, like I said, my last experience distorted my judgment enough to not give others a chance.

Who am I fooling…I deserve more than the ex gave me, so there’s no need to settle for or accept less than that now. God won’t take you from good to fair. He’ll give me better.

This will conclude my online dating experiences. November 4th, I am taking my ad down and will NOT open any more ads. My search for my king is over with, especially online.

I am serious this time!!

This is Jewells signing out…

Edited to add: Here is a message I just got. It is stuff like this that makes me shake my head!

Hello Gorgeous,
Thanks for the Message , Its so nice reading from you,I Loved what i read in
your profile and Your picture is Hot, You are Very beautiful and your beauty is
beyond description and i would love to know you more better and see where this
would take us to,I want to be happy with the one i’m with as well.. More
about me, I’m down to Earth man and I’m here to look for a Caring and
Loving woman ,I have never been married, Talking about who i am,I am the Only
child my parents gave birth to,I have no siblings, I am easy going type,open
minded and a good listener .I laugh a lot and try to make people around me all
the time happy.My hobbies are alot more but to mention few; sports,watching
movies, going for walks, playing with kids, listening to all types of music),
dancing in the dark etc. My favorite movies are romantic
movies,suspense,drama,comedy and
Adventure,my eating habits: I eat alot lol..Just about anything.My eyes is one
of my most attractive features., I’m am Half African and Half American(black
American) and i don’t want any Games Scene on here.I am looking for a True
Love and i hope you are also looking for the same thing as well.It really hurts
to see someone heart broken(I wonder what people gain by hurting the other
feelings) I’m looking for a Godly woman like i said earlier, I’m not
into the clubs and I don’t smoke, I’m pretty much looking for someone
that is the same .I will go to where ever and who ever i find to be my soul
mate.I love always being around my woman and letting her know how much i love
her through my physical touch on her body with my sensitive parts.What I am
looking for is someone who will get to know me ,who will love me forever and be
there for me ,who is willing to merge her soul with mine to result in what is
called FATE then later merge her heart with mine and
that will be MARRIAGE. Now don’t get me wrong I’m a very fun person
and can make fun of any situation. Baby you got all the Qualities i am looking
and all I need in a woman, By the way, I want you to know that i’m presently
in Nigeria visiting my Mom, She is sick ,Talking about my family background
I’ll tell you more as we continue to communicate,I hope i didn’t scare
you away or make you lose interest in me with the distance but i would love to
know you more better cos my heart tells me you might be the Special one for me
and my rightful wife(smile)….Ok I’m done for now and I’m turning the
table back to you…
I Hope to read from you soon. (name removed to protect the insane)

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